Tim Ferris once said that the opposite of happiness is not sadness, it's boredom. This statement alone can change your thinking, but let me take it a step further. What is the opposite of sadness?
Stability.
You have a friend that has just found out their mom was in a car accident, would you invite them to a day at the amusement park to lift their spirits with a few roller coaster rides? Of course this seems silly, you would tell them to find out if their mom was ok, get some information, if she was close by to go visit. All of these things are like little pillars around this person creating stability.
You can run pretty far with this. If you are financially traumatized, don't try and get rich, just get your feet under you until things settle. If you are going through health issues, don't train for a marathon, just start eating healthy and getting fresh air every day. Relationship problems, sit and have a quiet meal with your partner, don't try and recreate your honeymoon.
Lastly, if you are unhappy, get out and do something. You will not find happiness in a slightly newer car, a slightly bigger house, one more outfit, a vacation in Europe instead of Florida. All of these things represent leveling up your comfort and stability. Instead, push yourself. Maybe you do need to train for that marathon.
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